Sunday, November 16, 2014

The greatest loss

My heart is broken. I thought that maybe the body would just run out of tears but it doesn't.


When people ask me how I am, I say "fine" but what I mean is "my insides are shaking, I feel like I've been sucker punched and my heart is broken".

On June 29 my mom was diagnosed with cancer, she had found a small lump two weeks prior. We were shocked because I guess we thought that we were invincible. She's young and fit and strong. She was riding her bike 35km a day. We did Zumba together, she went to boxing and swimming with my sister, she ate healthily, she had longevity in her genes.


On July 14, she had a football sized tumour removed. The doctor said that he didn't expect her to ever leave the hospital, didn't expect her to live out the week. The cancer was too aggressive, the prognosis not good.

God, she is so so beautiful


Mom was so strong and so determined. She surprised everyone. She did laps around the ward, she walked outside, she brought smiles to other peoples faces. We got her home. She started chemo. She did wall pushups to keep up her strength. She was so strong and she fought so hard. Finally, there were no options left. We are so grateful for the wonderful staff at Palliative Care and the hospice. Thank you for caring for our very best person.


We lost my beautiful mom on November 11. 135 days since diagnosis. Too quick...

I'm so glad that her suffering and struggle is over. I understand that the sick person is gone. I'm just having such a hard time understanding that the vibrant, fun, smart, creative, giving, caring, loving, goofy person that I spoke to every day is gone too. She was the only person that I wanted to talk to when anything good or bad happened. I want to keep all the emails and texts and notes that she ever sent. I want to hold on to every photo ever taken. I want to punch holes through the walls and scream that it's not fair that she's gone. It's not fair, it's not fair.  I love you, I love you, I love you.


Mom was such a giving person, always putting others first. I feel like she died on November 11 as a final gift to us. We never have to go to work that day as it's a holiday. Remembrance day is for remembering those who gave their lives and every year we'll be able to be together. Look at her still spreading kindness. She fought so hard to give us the extra time to come to terms that she was sick, that she would die, that we would be left behind. She gave us time to celebrate my sister's birthday, my birthday and most importantly, my parent's 40th wedding anniversary.  Oh, we love her so so so much. If you want to know how much my dad loves this woman just listen to their wedding song.


                         

Mom asked to hear it a couple of days before she died. We played it at her funeral. Mom and dad have taught me so much about love; that it's work, that it's wonderful, that you take care of each other.


Cancer is so terrible. It just takes everything that you have and the treatment is horrible too. She struggled every day. Too many people I know and love struggle every day with this horrible disease.

I don't even know what to do next. I don't even understand how the world can just go on, how everyone can think that it's a normal day. Nothing will ever be the same again. The universe has shifted, the world is less bright. How do we carry on? How do I stop crying? How do I stop being so angry at cancer?
Our beloved Sheree Ann O’Byrne passed away on November 11, 2014 at the age of 59, after a brave, brief battle with cancer. Sheree touched everyone she met by making everyone feel important and well cared for. She created special events out of ordinary days and helped us all believe in the goodness of people and of God. We learned to celebrate small moments and the importance of family and love. To her friends and family she provided the right advice at the right time, always with care and kindness. When you were Sheree’s friend, you knew you had someone who would care for you for life. Sheree’s unrelenting support allowed her husband, Paul, to chase his dreams and her daughters to believe that anything is possible for them. Sheree is survived by her husband of 40 years, Paul; their daughters Danielle (TJ) and Gillian (Rob); her parents Lou and Helen Schmidt; her siblings Shelley Schmalenberg (Jim), Brent Schmidt (Maureen), and Greg Schmidt; her nieces and nephews Michael (Ashley), Chelsea, Katelyn, and Brayden. Thank you to the wonderful staff on 5E at the General Hospital, 3A (Palliative Care Unit) at the Pasqua Hospital, the teams in the ERs and Allan Blair Cancer Clinic, Dr. Aspe Lucero, and the caring team at Grace Hospice. Your compassionate care and attention to the person we love most made our difficult journey more bearable. In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to the Regina Palliative Care, Wascana Grace Hospice, Allan Blair Cancer Centre, or, if you are able, please consider donating blood at the Canadian Blood Services. Each of these places truly help people every day. 


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Monday, October 27, 2014

Window shopping

It seems that all of my friends are buying houses. This makes me want to make my little space even more cozy and wonderful.



I want a fabulous gallery wall that includes:
Otters

Balloons

Jellyfish

My kitchen needs more storage. And why shouldn't it be cute?

We have very comfortable couches that are very ugly. These would help. A lot.  Or this one.

And if I had this pillow?

The Gentleman Caller has been keeping an eye open at estate sales for a bowling set. This might work. 

If I bought this, I'd have to buy stuff to store. But I like its vibe.
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Tuesday, October 21, 2014

Restless

Oh Melbourne.


I miss you.
Reasons why living in Melbourne will ruin you for living anywhere else. 


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Monday, October 20, 2014

Inspiration

Sometimes you see things on Pinterest
Via

 and you're just like
YUP
I
CAN
MAKE
THAT
WORK

aug 2014


Even if you have to shimmy your sparkly mini-dress down around your waste and you spend the majority of the day rather concerned that you won't be able to wiggle your way out of it again.

jacket: Old Navy
top: Joe Fresh
necklace: grandma's 
dress-skirt: Ricki's
leggings: Joe Fresh
shoes: ?



PS Don't worry. I got out of the skirt-dress thingy... but it was touch and go for a minute. 



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Friday, October 17, 2014

LOVE

My friends got married and it was so so lovely.
A cathedral and the fanciest hotel in town is a genius way to commit to love.

July 26, 2014

Plus I had an inbetweenie party. Over 20 people crammed into my tiny apartment between the ceremony and the reception. I cannot confirm or deny that we snuck jello shots into the dinner.

cardi: Joe Fresh
dress: Ricki's 
necklace: Gma's 
shoes: Fluevog



We danced our faces off and celebrated love and those are two of my favourite things to do!





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Thursday, October 16, 2014

Running?

The Gentleman Caller and I signed up for Run of Dye at the beginning of the summer. Apparently, it's a fun run... which I think is a misnomer.


I am not a runner. In fact, I cannot figure out why people like running, like, at all. But still maybe if people like it, I could too? If I keep trying?


Ok, Ok... It was pretty fun. 


                          

                          

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Wednesday, October 15, 2014

Before

As life carries on, I was wondering if I should continue with this blog. What is the point of writing and nonsensing if no one is reading it? But maybe it's like a tree in the forest...
And it turns out that I like having a blog. I like taking photos and bullet pointing my life, even if it's just for me. Because, honestly, I can't remember what I wore last week without taking a photo of it. And even before I ever had this blog I kept of record of what I wore by drawing paper dolls.


June 2014


So maybe I'll try to update, if only just for myself.

top: Joe Fresh
leggings: Joe Fresh
skirt: Forever 21
shoes: ?
necklace: beach in Vietnam
glasses: Dolce & Gabbana 






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